Why We Love Spanking Romance Heroes 13

Well it’s been a long week–no, scratch that–it’s been a long two weeks.  We knew it was going to happen, we just didn’t know when.  I am talking about my mini-breakdown today.

Our family has been dealing with my husband traveling for almost four months now.  Anyone who has been through this knows there are pluses and minuses.   The money is fabulous, but we miss him.  His absence makes it feel like we are dating; it is exciting to look forward to his return every Friday night. But we miss him.

We had a family crisis about two weeks ago and then this week had another family crisis.  Between working full time, writing until late most nights, his absence and dealing with these crises on my own, the breakdown was imminent. 

The hissy fit usually occurs when I have too many things on my shoulders, don’t feel appreciated and feel like I am not getting enough help. Tonight it ended with me leaving the dinner table, going upstairs and staring at the ceiling for a long period of time on our bed.

My sweet husband came upstairs and said, “Hey, you okay?”

My response was a sullen, “No.”

 I could see out of the corner of my eye that he was staring at me, perplexed and then he said, “Is there anything I can get you?”


End of conversation.  He then went downstairs and I could hear him cleaning the kitchen, washing the dishes and putting things away.  Sweet, right?  Very sweet, very nice. He is truly an amazing husband. Why didn’t I feel better at that moment?

I pondered all these things and found myself saying, ‘this is why we love spanking romance heroes.’  It is why I read them and why I am now writing them.   The men I know, friends and family, seem to be afraid of women when they are angry, crying or emotional.  They don’t know what to do with us and tend to avoid us when we are in one of “those” moods. 

But a spanking romance hero, like the one pictured above, would have taken me in hand at that point. He would have told me that I don’t get to walk away from the dinner table in a temper without speaking to anyone.   He would have said, “talk to me” or forced me to talk to him, forcing me to tell him what was wrong.  And if I refused to talk, I would have been taken over his knee and paddled.  Or maybe he would have withheld orgasms until I talked–that’s was a fun thought!  And some of you have husbands that are like that.

He came back upstairs after he cleaned the whole kitchen and then proceeded to finish packing so I could bring him to airport again.  We have been together for over twenty five years, he knows my weaknesses and what triggers my moods.  He knew this was coming, he saw it bubbling to the surface during the week and had warned me that I needed to rest because I was going to “crash” from the stress.  We will have to deal with the crisis without him again this week and wait for his return on Friday.  

We did talk before he left.  He held me as I cried and we will be fine.  My hero knows how to deal with me and he is very good at cajoling me and making me laugh.  I guess I will continue to read and write about these dominant, alpha, spanking heroes and sigh.  But in my life and my reality, my hero is sweet and soft-spoken and is able to make me talk after all.

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13 thoughts on “Why We Love Spanking Romance Heroes

  • Casey McKay

    So here is my thing. Your husband sounds like my husband. I often joke that when I get like this he will slowly back out of a room while throwing chocolate in my general direction. He hates when I am upset or crying, even worse when I am angry because then he can't even comfort me. Would you really want a guy that would spank you because you were stressed? I mean really? I think my husband did once, but it was during sex and I had to really hint about it. He would rather just try to get me to laugh and bring me some ice cream.
    I hope you have a better week this week! You should hint to your husband that you could use a nice night of spanky panky next weekend, it will give you both something to anticipate 🙂

    • Megan Michaels

      Why is it the idea of a spanking sounds so good. I know you are right. I would turn into a clawing, wet cat if he had tried to touch me yesterday!! I married him because he is logical, rational, sweet, kind and, most important, because he can make me laugh no matter what is going on!!

  • Anonymous

    Megan, my work required me to travel often, sometimes even 100%, for about 30 years. It is terribly hard on families, and especially on the wife who has to run the household all alone. I found it helped to send little cards through the mail, and hide them around the house before I left. Then, call both morning and evening. I didn't enjoy the travel, but it was necessary. I hated waking up and not knowing what city I was in. It's difficult on both sides of the situation. Next Sunday, before you take him to the airport, slip a little card with an outrageously sexy suggestion into the depths of his suitcase. Then watch your mailbox, and look forward to Friday! Does he have a Kindle? Can he read your spanking fantasies before bed every night, and get some ideas before he heads home? (Father's Day is coming!) Good luck.

    • Megan Michaels

      Thank you so much for replying. in the past 5 years, he has probably traveled at least 3 of them. It is very difficult. And I know that he has a terrible time with it too. We talk every night and text every morning. I LOVE the idea of the cards and notes. I plan on instituting that immediately!! Funny you bring up the Kindle, he is my beta reader and loves reading my WIP. Again, never thought of going that way with the Kindle. He will love that! Thank you for the suggestions and understanding. It is always nice to know others understand.

  • Celeste Jones

    I can totally relate. My husband travels for his job too and while I do like the alone time, I get resentful too. Then when he's only home for a day or two and I'm in a snit, I feel extra guilty because I wanted our limited time together to be perfect.

    You're totally right about spanking heros and why we love them (and love to write about them). Sigh.

    • Megan Michaels

      I thought of you yesterday, actually. I remembered your husband was traveling this past winter and I wondered if you went through this too. We always feel like we are alone. It is nice to see others feeling the same thing. And, yes, we love our spanking heroes!

  • Tara Finnegan

    I empathise with you. It's awful when you have limited time and then life's stresses interrupt that time. I hear you on the spanking hero, and how he would have handled the situation. But if your husband had handled it like that, I wonder would you have reacted like the heroine, and got over your snit, or would it just succeeded in driving you into a bigger snit, making you feel even less appreciated? It can be a hard call, both for our real life heros and ourselves! While they are not the spanking romance heroes, nor are we the spanking romance heroines. TLC, a hug and a giggle might have been just the right medicine!

    • Megan Michaels

      Yeah, as much as he is not like a hero, I am definitely not a heroine. I am only like the sassy ones!! LOL I said the same thing to Casey above, I would NOT have been compliant if he had tried to spank me at that time. I probably would have punched him to be perfectly honest. Leaving me alone and then giving me a hug and making me laugh was exactly the right combination!!

  • Normandie Alleman

    I totally empathize with you as well. My DH has been working 17 hour shifts for the past 10 days. He's home today but I know he will sleep the whole day. (I would too!) It is a mixed bag of resentment for the lack of attention I receive (I'm a high maintenance wife. lol) and gratitude for his hard work. We're not so into DD, but I do like when he takes charge and dominates me, and sadly that's the last thing on his mind when he's utterly exhausted. Real like does make the alphas of fantasies even more wonderful to read and to write!

    • Megan Michaels

      That's the other problem. They are so tired from the traveling or long shifts, that there isn't time for play. It is very difficult for everyone. We have weekends where we play a ton and others where all I do it watch him sleep. It will be nice when this is over again and we can rest and get back to normal. I hope your husband's schedule slows down some and you can go back to normal too.

  • katherinedeane

    I loved this post, Megan! And I agree with Casey. My husband is very similar also.
    Although, sometimes I do push to get the spanking so I can release.

    sorry about all the stuff going on.
    blessings and hugs!
    hang in there 🙂