HELLO, I’M A WAVER
I’m a waver. Always have been. If I’m walking down the hall at work, I wave. Even if I don’t know you. Sometimes I squint and smile, other times I nod my head and say hello, and other times I say hello and wave. Do I know the person? Not always. It just seems like the thing to do. Seems polite and kind. Accepting. Friendly.
I heard a study this week. (And, by the way, I need to get a job where they do studies.) I think that often. Do you think that? I want a job where they decide that getting a new job is stressful. Really, who knew? I want a job where they decide that men are sexually aroused when women wear no bra. Really, who knew?
I digress. So a study showed (which I heard on the radio but for the life of me, I cannot find on the web for anything) that bosses DO NOT wave to coworkers and most definitely do not wave to subordinates.
This bothered me. I’m not sure I want a boss who doesn’t wave to me or others. A boss who thinks waving to a coworkers is somehow threatening to his authority, I’m pretty sure has authority issues himself and insecurities that’ll make it hard to work for him. I worked in a hospital where unless you had a white, doctor’s coat on you never, EVER heard a hello or received a wave. The social class issues were upsetting in this work environment.
But the President waves, even the Queen of England waves. The Queen is known for her wave. We all have had our nights of waving like the Queen (there may have been tequila involved, but we’ve all done it).
When I’m driving, I wave to other drivers. I wave to let them into the lane, I wave to let them know they can cut in front of me. I wave in my rearview mirror to thank someone for letting me cut into their lane or letting me ahead of them. But, once again, I find it’s a dying art. No one seems to wave as a “thank you” to another driver.
I wave in our neighborhood. If someone is taking a walk with their spouse, baby or dog. I wave as I pass them. The kids used to ask when they were little, “Do you know her?” “Nope, just being friendly. When you have a chance to be friendly, always react in a friendly way. It never hurts to wave and smile at someone. It might be the smile they need that day.”
One of the first things we do when our kids are little is say over and over and over again, “Say Hi” — “Wave to grandma” — “Wave to grandpa” — “Say goodbye to your sister” — “Wave!” There’s a reason. It makes you smile to have someone wave and say hello. It’s even better if that someone is under one, giving you a huge, toothless grin and waving so hard they can’t sit still.
So I’ve decided, I may not get the promotion or may be looked down upon for my waving. But, “I’M A WAVER” dammit and I’m not ashamed of it.
So the next time the opportunity arises, smile at someone, regardless of their age, looks or status, wave and say cheerfully, “Hi, How are you today?”
GO FORTH AND WAVE TO OTHERS TODAY!!