|synonyms:||snuggle, cuddle, huddle, nuzzle, settle, burrow
“the little ones nestled under the cozy quilt with their mother”
Sitting on a kneeler in our pew at church around the age of four, I remember looking at a girl about my age sleeping in her father’s arms with her nose in his neck. I remember watching and staring for a long time. I felt sad wishing that I had a Daddy like that. As stated earlier in SpankA2Z, my alcoholic, gambling stepfather was abusive and definitely not someone you cuddled or nestled with. I thought it must be amazing to sleep with your nose in your father’s neck. I just couldn’t imagine anything nicer than smelling a Daddy and feeling safe, warm and…..loved.
My husband loves cuddling. If he could get paid to cuddle, he wouldn’t hesitate I’m sure. I think he’s finally filled that void in me–it took over twenty five years. It’s an ache that goes soul deep. I never had to beg to be cuddled, he loved it and needed it as much as I did apparently.
I loved watching him cuddle with our kids. There were many days it brought me to tears to think how blessed my children were. In particular, I knew my daughter would never have that ache to be held by a man–she wouldn’t be looking for it in a “daddy figure” or fall prey to needing to be held vs. really being loved. Women who don’t have cuddling and nestling as a child, look for it many destructive ways and patterns.
Last year’s post for the Letter N was Nighties–Ruminations of Nighties and Spankings and has been quite popular over the year. If you want to read it the link is HERE